We all feel angry at times. It can be an uncomfortable emotion, yet is almost a taboo subject. We get very little guidance in our culture on how to deal with it, and the guilt or violence that may accompany it. Here is the perfect book to help anyone from 16-75 years old to beat their anger - or help anyone else to do the same. Aimed at parents, families, young adults and teachers, social and youth workers, health care professionals, managers, customer service departments, psychotherapists and counsellors - there cannot be many men or women who have not felt uncomfortable when they are angry, and wondered what to do about it.

Facing the Fire: Experiencing and Expressing Anger Appropriately  by Lee, John, and Stott, Bill

About this title: In the most important book on anger since The Dance of Anger, the author of The Flying Boy demonstrates how to transform this unpredictable emotion into a source of positive, productive energy and offers ways to vent anger that are safe and healthy. Uses real-life scenarios to help you understand what anger is, what causes it, and guides you through learning how to express and control

Healing the Shame That Binds You by John Bradshaw
Publisher: Health Communications 1991 Paperback £8.99
In an emotionally revealing way John Bradshaw shows us how toxic shame is the core problem in our compulsions, co-dependencies, addictions and the drive to super-achieve. The result is a breakdown in the family system and our inability to go forward with our lives. We are bound by our shame. Drawing from his 22 years of experience as a counselor, Bradshaw offers us the techniques to heal this shame. Using affirmations, visualizations, "inner voice" and "feeling" work plus guided meditations and other useful healing techniques, he realeases the shame that binds us to the past. This important book breaks new ground in the core issues of societal and personal breakdown, offering techniques of recovery vital to all of us.

Bradshaw, John Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child
Publisher: Piatkus Books 1991 Paper 12.99
The people who attend John Bradshaw's workshops bring with them persistent problems such as addiction, depression, troubled relationships and chronic dissatisfaction. He seeks to help them to reach back to the source of their problems - their childhood and adolescence - and understand how the wounds received then can continue to contaminate their adult lives. The aim is to offer them a chance to reclaim and nurture their "inner child" and grow up again. In this book Bradshaw describes what happens at these workshops and explains how readers can, by using the questionnaires provided, try to look back to their childhood and see what they needed, and didn't get, in order to grow in a natural, healthy way. He also tells the story of his own experiences and how they transformed his thinking and behaviour. The author has written two previous books, both of which accompanied television shows in the USA.

Goleman, Daniel Emotional Intelligence: Why it Can Matter More Than IQ
Publisher: Bloomsbury Pub. 1996 7.99
As Goleman demonstrates, the personal costs of deficits in emotional intelligence can range from problems in marriage and parenting to poor physical health in adults, and to eating disorders and depression in children. (New research shows that chronic anger and anxiety create as great a health risk as chain-smoking.) But the news is hopeful. Emotional intelligence is not fixed at birth. Goleman's argument gives new insights into the brain architecture underlying emotion and rationality. He shows precisely how emotional intelligence can be nurtured and strengthened in all of us. And because the emotional lessons a child learns actually sculpt the brain's circuitry, Goleman provides detailed guidance as to how parents and schools can benefit from this.

Keen, Sam Fire in the Belly: On Being a Man
Publisher: Bantam Books 1992 $15.95
This book confronts outdated rites of passage that impoverish, injure and alienate men. It offers new routes to a developed, self-actualizing, spiritually-grounded masculinity. It looks at the past, and at the primal power that women wield over men. It re-evaluates men and sex, men and war and men and work, and then provides models to help men move from brokenness to wholeness in every aspect of their lives. Although Sam Keen explores the meaning of being a person from the perspective of the male experience, the story he tells is relevant to both sexes. In this way, this book is written for women too, as they strive to understand the men they love, raise and live with. But most of all, it is a guide for men seeking new ideals of masculinity and a fuller, more passionate life.

Fromm, Erich The Art of Loving
Publisher: Thorsons 1995 £7.99
The author sees love as the ultimate need and desire of all human beings. In this book he discusses every aspect of the subject: romantic love, the love of parents for children, brotherly love, erotoc love, self love and the love of God. He looks at the theory of love as it appears throughout the cultures of the world and at the practice, how we show or fail to show love for one another. Love is an art which we need to develop and practice in order to find true contentment. We need to find it individually as well as a society as a whole.
 

Peck, M.Scott The Road Less Travelled:The New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values and Spiritual Growth
Publisher: Rider 2003 £7.99
Confronting and solving problems is a painful process which most of us attempt to avoid. Avoiding resolution results in greater pain and an inability to grow both mentally and spiritually. Drawing heavily on his own professional experience, Dr M. Scott Peck, a psychiatrist, suggests ways in which facing our difficulties - and suffering through the changes - can enable us to reach a higher level of self-understanding. He discusses the nature of loving relationships: how to distinguish dependency from love; how to become one's own person and how to be a more sensitive parent. This is a book that can show you how to embrace reality and yet achieve serenity and a richer existence. Hugely influential, it has now sold over six million copies - and has changed many people's lives round the globe. It may change yours.


James, Oliver They F*** You Up: How to Survive Family Life
Publisher: Bloomsbury Pub. 2003 £7.99
Do your relationships tend to follow the same destructive pattern? Do you feel trapped by your family's expectations of you? Does your life seem overwhelmingly governed by jealousy or competitiveness or lack of confidence?;Current fashion holds that this is all down to genes - we are the victims of what we inherit and can do little to change that. But in this book, clinical psychologist Oliver James shows that, more than genes, it is the way we were cared for in the first six years of life that has a crucial effect on who we are and how we behave. The legacy of this early care is lifelong and startlingly far-reaching Through case histories and his own wide-ranging research, James reveals that childhood experience dominates our choice of friends and lovers, defines our interests and professional drive and even determines how prone we might be to emotional and mental problems. The influence of the formative years, James contends, actually affects the development of our brains, moulding their chemistry and patterns of electrical messages. Nurture, in effect, shapes our very nature.

Lerner, Harriet Goldhor The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Pattern of Intimate Relationships
Publisher: Thorsons 1999 £7.99
For many women anger is a destructive force which perpetuates all the harmful dynamics of intimate relationships. In this text feminist psychotherapist, Harriet G. Lerner shows how all women regardless of age, background or experience, can turn anger into a constructive force. Focusing largely on the family, the book provides the reader with the insights and practical skills to stop behaving in the old predictable ways and to begin to use anger to establish a more positive approach to significant relationships.
 

Bradshaw, John The Family: A New Way of Creating Solid Self-esteem
Publisher: Health Communications,U.S. 1996 £9.99
A revised self-help book to give readers insight on improving their families, their lives, and society at large. The "death of the family", is a common social problem today and the book shows how to escape from family reinforced behavioural traps, thus benefiting themselves and society as a whole.
 

Rosenberg, Marshall, PH.D. Nonviolent Communication: Create Your Life, Your Relationships, and Your World in Harmony with Your Values
Publisher: Sounds True $29.95 What if you could defuse tension and create accord in even the most volatile situations--just by changing the way you spoke? Over the past 35 years, Marshall Rosenberg has done just that, peacefully resolving conflicts in families, schools, businesses, and governments in 30 countries on 5 continents. On Nonviolent Communication, this renowned peacemaker presents his complete system for speaking our deepest truths ...addressing our unrecognized needs and emotions...and honoring those same concerns in others. With this adaptation of the bestselling books of the same title, Marshall Rosenberg teaches in his own words: - Observations, feelings, needs, and requests: how to apply the four-step process of Nonviolent Communication to every dialogue we engage in - Overcoming the blocks to compassion--and opening to our natural desire to enrich the lives of those around us - How to use empathy to safely confront anger, fear, and other powerful emotions Here is a definitive audio training workshop on Marshall Rosenberg's proven methods for "resolving the unresolvable" through Nonviolent Communication.

Levine, Peter Waking the Tiger:Healing Trauma: The Innate Capacity to Transform Overwhelming Experiences
Publisher: North Atlantic Books 1997 $16.95
Waking the Tiger offers a new and hopeful vision of trauma. It views the human animal as a unique being, endowed with an instinctual capacity to heal as well as an intellectual spirit to harness this innate capacity. It asks and answers an intriguing question - why are animals in the wild, though threatened routinely, rarely traumatized? By understanding the dynamics that make wild animals virtually immune to traumatic symptoms, the mystery of human trauma is revealed. Waking the Tiger normalizes the symptoms of trauma and the steps needed to heal them.
 

Davis, Martha Relaxation & Stress Reduction Workbook, The
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications 2000 $19.95
This revised edition features a reader-friendly format with addition techniques, diagrams, examples, and information reflecting the latest research. The chapters on meditation, thought stopping, and coping-skills training have been substantially reworked, and a new chapter on worry control has been added.